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Inner Game In The Real World

'Inner Game' refers to the DEEP, almost instinctive level thoughts, emotions, and beliefs you have about yourself and about women. Your inner game is probably the greatest single factor in your success with women. Inner game is not set in stone, it can be CHANGED.

Unfortunately, there's a lot of total hogwash out there about 'inner game'. So I felt it was important to actually put out some facts about it, since it makes a WORLD of difference to your success with women.

First of all, inner game, for your success with women, is not some magic trick.

It's about the level of SELF-DESIRABILITY, SECURITY, and COMFORT you feel with women.

Now, we're all different, but for the most part, every man on earth has to WORK to get this, especially if he wants to rise to the TOP.

This is the part where most guys simply fool themselves. None of us wants to admit anything is less than perfect about ourselves, especially regarding our ability to attract a woman.

And yet, the reality is that in ALL areas of life, it's those who know full well that NO ONE is perfect, and who know full well that ALL success boils down to DISCIPLINE AND TAKING CONSISTENT ACTION, it's those people get the most results- with money, with women, with their fitness, etc.

Unfortunately, this type of RATIONAL THINKING is becoming extinct.

In recent decades, we have been brought up in our schools to believe we are all "special" even if we don't put in any WORK.

Everyone gets a "star" these days, no one gets punished, so why on earth would we WORK hard when we don't have to?

The reality is that if you want to TRULY have inner game with women, then you need to realize that there has been a LIFETIME of you allowing yourself to get all kinds of WRONG messages, and it's going to take some WORK to COUNTER all that BRAINWASHING.

Yes, you allowed yourself to get BRAINWASHED, and in many ways, you may have even brainwashed yourself.

You see, we don't realize we are brainwashing ourselves, but every time in the past that you have seen a woman you wanted to approach, but you didn't approach her, you planted one more seed of brainwashing into your brain.

You told yourself the following messages, silently:

YOU SHOULD NOT APPROACH WOMEN.
IT'S NOT NORMAL TO APPROACH WOMEN.
THE RISK OF REJECTION IS TOO MUCH.
REJECTION WOULD BE UNBEARABLE.
I MIGHT BREAK DOWN IF I WAS REJECTED.

These messages, if allowed to go on long enough, can easily have distorted into even greater distortions of truth, such as:

ALL WOMEN ARE SELFISH
ALL WOMEN ARE MEAN
ALL WOMEN WILL REJECT ME
ALL WOMEN HAVE IT EASY
ALL WOMEN ARE MAKING FUN OF ME
ALL WOMEN CAN'T BE TRUSTED

The reason for these beliefs is that by having these beliefs, they back up your EMOTIONS, they are consistent with what you are FEELING. So you believe these ideas, not because of lots of REAL evidence, but because these beliefs FEEL consistent with your emotions.

But what if your EMOTIONS were MISFIRING?
What if the emotions that you were feeling were being triggered for NO GOOD REASON?

Have you ever thought that this is POSSIBLE?

Let me show you how this actually happens ALL THE TIME IN REAL LIFE.

Do you wear contact lenses?
Do you remember what it was like when you
FIRST tried putting them in?
Did this not feel INSANE at first?

How many times as a kid were you told you "DON'T PUT THINGS IN YOUR EYE!!!"

Did it not feel SCARY?

And yet, after doing this many times, you got USED TO IT, so that you don't even think TWICE about it anymore, the EMOTION has totally CHANGED!

So your original emotion was WRONG, it was firing off for no good reason.

How about something like SKY-DIVING? There are people who do it ALL the time. But the FIRST emotion that comes to mind is that is INSANE- you simply are not SUPPOSED to be jumping out of planes!

How about something like DRIVING? The first time you got behind the wheel, did it not feel CRAZY, that you have all this POWER, that it's TOO CRAZY that you can have this much power and CONTROL it.

But then after a while, after driving school or practice, driving is something you feel a lot more comfortable doing.

Again, your emotions CHANGED.

So let me tell you something- it's the EXACT same thing with changing your THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS, AND BEHAVIORS with women.

You can't just expect them to CHANGE, unless you DO something about them.

In fact, IGNORING the problem will only make it WORSE, as you will just continue to create more and more WRONG beliefs that lead to even more wrong emotions that will push you farther and farther away from where you need to be internally.

So the first step is you have to ACCEPT that CHANGE is required.

The second step is that you have to accept that this change will require some serious GUTS and COURAGE.

I say this, because let me tell you, this change is going to be the freakin scariest thing you have done in your life.

But the reality is that "he who dares, WINS".

I don't like the wussy style attitude of "maybe I might do it one day".

That reminds me of the line from the movie THE ROCK, where Sean Connery's character says "Pu**es TRY. WINNER take the prom queen home and *&^% her!"

Now, I don't believe life is about the superficial, but I DO believe that with an attitude like THAT, you are going to go BIG GUNS, you are going to give it your REAL BEST EFFORT, and THAT is the only way to success.

The reason that kids in Japan do so well in school is because they are taught not to pussy out when a question seems difficult. So for example, a math problem that typically a student will spend ten minutes on trying to figure out and then give up on after trying, well in Japan it would be NORMAL to spend 1 or 2 HOURS trying to solve it.

That would be NORMAL. And even if you don't figure it out, that type of ATTITUDE is what helps you LEARN for REAL.

The reality is that your inner game with women will ONLY GROW if you are prepared to EMBRACE the challenge, to CONFRONT your fears and NOT give in to them NO MATTER WHAT.

And at the very LEAST, you must do your best to WITHSTAND the temptation to give in to your fear for as long as possible, for this very process itself will make you stronger.

So let's say for example you are talking to a woman and feeling very uncomfortable, well at least STAY in that conversation for as long as you can possibly BEAR before leaving. Even if you don't get her number, the LONGER you withstand the pressure before you eject, the STRONGER you will become, the greater your confidence will become, the greater your charisma will become.

Plus, you will HAVE LEARNED things about how to have an even better conversation next time, you will have learned far more that way than by just theorizing about it on your own.

So your actual inner game confidence as well as your outer game KNOWLEDGE increases by taking this attitude of EMBRACING THE STRUGGLE.

All good things come from STRUGGLE. From evolution to learning in school to success with women, the first step is EMBRACING the challenge and taking it HEAD ON, looking it right in the eyes and staring it down no matter how freaky it seems.

This is the way to EXCELLENCE.

In Rambo, First Blood Part II, he is told by some guy that he will be given all the best weaponry to accomplish his mission, and Rambo says "I believe the MIND is the most powerful weapon."

He's right. And your MIND is the most powerful ally you have for success with women as well.

So let me give you some CONCRETE TIPS as well that you can put into ACTION.

1. CREATE THE COUNTER-CAMPAIGN

Your mind has been getting an ALL OUT 'advertising campaign' for a lifetime, that has been telling brainwashing you to believe all the WRONG things about yourself and about women, and about what you should be DOING.

So for example, when seeing a woman you wanted to approach, your mind and emotions were telling you: "WATCH OUT, DON'T DO THAT!"

So NOW, I want you to create a COUNTER-CAMPAIGN that is even STRONGER than the one you have been getting all these years.

I want you to go BALLS OUT on this, totally go WILD with your counter-campaign, as if you were spending a BILLION DOLLARS worth of ADVERTISING MESSAGES to your own mind- this campaign should be EVERWHERE AROUND YOU, in EVERY FORMAT.

So for example, write SIGNS on your wall telling you to TAKE ACTION EVERY TIME YOU SEE A WOMAN YOU LIKE!!

Write SIGNS that say things like "Don't give yourself EXCUSES!"

For every EXCUSE you have made in the past, WRITE DOWN something that OVERPOWERS THAT EXCUSE AND BLOWS THAT EXCUSE TO SHREDS!

So if your excuse was that these women seem like they are in a rush, your COUNTER campaign might be that so are YOU, and that YOUR TIME is just as valuable, so if YOU feel it's worthy to speak to her, then so should SHE.

Or you might want to write that even if she IS in a rush, it's not about HER, it's about whether you will allow YOURSELF to USE this as an excuse. You see, it's up to HER to decide for herself what she wants, but it's up to YOU to approach her. You'll never know unless YOU take action.

Her reply is her business, but your actions are YOURS.

Also, don't just WRITE things down, but RECORD them on tape or a voice recorder and have them PLAYING around you as much as possible!

Have audio of you giving yourself EMPOWERING COMMANDS, and of things like "NO MATTER WHAT SHE SAYS, IT'S UP TO ME TO TAKE ACTION, AND EVEN A REJECTION IS BETTER THAN A LIFE OF NEVER TAKING ACTION".

See, the interesting thing is that you can always PUSH off the negative things, there's no deadline for worry, for fear, so you can always push it off till AFTER you have finished accomplishing all your goals with dating, etc.

IN THIS LIFE, however, you should be taking ACTION, because ACTION is something that you can do only NOW.

Remember, this is an ALL-OUT BLITZ!

You must BOMBARD your mind and your emotions with a CAMPAIGN to COUNTER all the wrong advice, thoughts, emotions, you have been pumping into yourself for a LIFETIME.

In fact, you can even have the audio tapes playing while you are SLEEPING if it doesn't keep you up.

Put up the right POSTERS of the kind of examples of people, characters or things that symbolize what you want to BE.

Do not take this lightly, this is how all great leaders, artists, and in fact evil leaders as well, have shaped the emotions, and imaginations of millions of people - they BOMBARDED their people with tons and tons of CAMPAIGNS AND MESSAGES, and you can do the same for yourself to create the kind of man
YOU want to be with women.

We are what we constantly think and do.

By the way, this has massive applications beyond your inner game as well, it will help you become attractive and get a quality woman as well in the sense that a quality woman wants a man who has CONVICTION and PASSION with regard to integrity, honesty, etc, so you can also surround yourself with messages that HIGHLIGHT these things as well, which will make you become the living EMBODIMENT of not only confidence, but also INTEGRITY.

And like attracts like, so this will attract the same kind of woman.

2. REMEMBER THAT AT FIRST IT WILL FEEL WORSE.

Yes, at FIRST, your anxiety will INCREASE, because you are entering NEW TERRITORY, and as insane as it is, your useless old campaigns got you SOMETHING, they got you TEMPORARY RELIEF from the anxiety of having to take action.

Of course, though, that was an illusion, as it created FAR MORE anxiety over a lifetime of lack of results.

So, when you feel that first tinge of INCREASED anxiety, you must SHOUT OUT TO YOURSELF that this is GOOD, it is a sign that you are on the RIGHT TRACK!

If you didn't feel it, it would mean you were NOT growing, it would mean were taking the OLD path that led to nowhere.

3. REMEMBER THAT IT WILL QUICKLY FEEL BETTER!

Yes, if you stick to it, then even in a matter of HOURS you will notice MASSIVE improvement, never mind how much AWESOME improvement will come if you stick to it for the following weeks and MONTHS.

4. TAKE CONSISTENT BABY STEPS.

Yes, each day, push your envelope a little further, whether it's making eye contact with women, starting conversations, escalating to intimacy, whatever it is for you, take that next baby step,, and then the next day, take another baby step forward, and within a week or two you will be taking HUGE steps.

The key is the CONSISTENCY!!!!!

Now, if you do these things, I promise you that you will not recognize yourself in just a few WEEKS if you truly do these things: Baby step by baby step, pushing outside your comfort zone, surrounding yourself with the counter-campaign.

But are you going to DO IT?

This is where I can help you- I can give you the exact ROADMAP to follow, detail by detail, so you have guidance every step of the way.

The first place to go to know exactly what to do, from transforming your mind and emotions, to what to do exactly to approach her, build attraction, get physical, and beyond, is to download my book at:

Get A Great Girl

Till next time,

Michael